Sometimes negatives start swirling around our heads and end up looking like a big tangle- a giant scribble filling up our heads. Putting our stresses, concerns, fears, and hurts into words helps to sort, organize, and arrange them to the point where they are easier to understand and more tangible to handle. It also makes them smaller.
As the holidays approach, many of us find ourselves stressed, weary, sad, impatient... insert your struggle here. Take a minute to write down any words that best describe what you have in your head. For example:
Now, think of a word that is the perfect opposite of each one you just wrote down. Make sure it fits for you exactly, like this:
When you can't get past what's going wrong, find the opposite and set it up like a target in your life. Let those opposing opposites fight back. Then think solution-focused: What do you need to do more or less of to get those positive feelings? Who do you need to be around, or maybe see less of? What expectations for yourself or others can you rewrite?